What is the perfect amount of children? The world has created this idea that having to many kids or having kids in general is a bad thing. This day in age, there are so many couples out there who wait so long to decide to have kids that when they get there they decide that maybe they should not have kids. There are people who are caught up in their careers and don't feel like they don't have the time for kids, and there are those who are caught up in the worldly views on having children. The worldly views can really confuse our minds, and second guess our thoughts and feelings. Being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I think families are an important part of God's plan. There are so many great blessing that come from families. At the end of the day it is between you and your spouse and the Lord of what your family should look like. That is what is hard about how the world views having kids because it something that can only be determined in your eyes along with God's. The world has created this misconception that when you have kids your lives will be ruined. It will definitely change your life, but I wouldn't say it ruins it. It is so important that you carefully and thoughtfully decide how many you kids you want, not how many the Lord wants. Having kids is something you don't want to mess with, and is a very big decision, but when it is right for you and your spouse it will work out for you. As my husband and I start thinking about kids, we keep those thoughts and feelings to our own selves, and don't share them outside of that. I have noticed that once an idea is open for all to hear, it creates a all hand on deck affect where everything and everyone need to get a hold of it and tamper with it. A decision as great as bringing a life into this world should not be tampered or turned into a confusing thought. Being human means we tend to overthink anything that enters the brain, and when you have a thought about something and you let the negative thoughts of the world enter we tend to mix up the good feeling with the bad feeling. The more we let those deceitful thoughts in the more we will turn to how the world thinks rather than the sacred feelings we had with our spouse and God. From personal experience, I have let those negative thoughts in and it has really confused me and made me doubt something that was important to me. I believe and know for myself that there are thousands of little spirits waiting for their family to pick them. Do we want to make them wonder or question if they will get to come down to this earth? I have seen so many people who don't think before they do and bring a child into this world with out thoughtfully and carefully making that decision. I know of a really cool story, but will keep the individual anonymous. This couple had a couple of kids and felt like they were done, but a couple years later they had a very strong impression that they needed to have one more child in their home. They had one more kid, and it was very clear that they needed this little boy in their home. I know for a surety that if you and your spouse will tune in to each other along with the lord you will know how many children you are supposed to have. Don't let the world give you a different view of how you should go about having kids. It is not anyone's business on when you feel it is enough for you. You will know when enough is enough.
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